Sex Toys for Gay and Lesbian Couples: LGBTQ Guide

Sex toys do not have a gender or an orientation. A vibrator, a dildo or a lube does not care who uses it or with whom. Yet most shops still sort everything into “for him”, “for her” and “for couples” with a man and a woman in mind. This guide is for lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans and queer people, and for anyone who wants to shop by what a toy does rather than who it is “meant” for. We go type by type, so you can match toys to the bodies and the kind of play you enjoy.

Quick answer: the best sex toys for gay couples and lesbian couples are the same ones that suit any body: body-safe silicone vibrators, rings, strokers, dildos and plugs, chosen for what they do rather than who they are “for”. Wash shared toys between partners, use plenty of water-based lube, and choose a flared base for any anal play.

Shop by body and by play, not by label

The most useful question is not “is this a women’s toy or a men’s toy?” but “what does this toy do, and to which part of the body?” Every couple, and every body, is different. A trans woman, a lesbian couple and a gay couple might all want the same bullet vibrator for completely different reasons. Read the descriptions, check the size and material, and trust your own sense of what you enjoy. Our overview of sex toys in India explains how we choose what to stock.

Sex toys for gay couples

Many gay male couples start with toys that are easy to share or swap: vibrating rings, which add vibration for both people during partner play; strokers and sleeves, used solo or on each other; and, for those who enjoy it, prostate massagers and plugs with a flared base. A good bottle of lube is the most useful purchase of all. Start with small, smooth silicone shapes and go slowly.

Sex toys for lesbian couples

Many lesbian and queer women couples enjoy toys that make shared play hands-free: small bullets and finger vibrators, air-pulse toys, wearable and remote toys one partner can control, and wands for broad vibration. Dildos in body-safe silicone or glass suit those who enjoy internal play; a flat, flared base is useful if you later add a harness. Many couples buy two small toys rather than one big one, so nobody has to wait.

Bisexual, trans and non-binary people and couples can mix and match from both lists: choose by body and by the touch you enjoy.

Toys for external play

Finger vibrators slip over a finger and turn touch into vibration. They suit any body and are lovely for partner play; see our guide to finger vibrators.
Bullets and lay-ons are small, versatile and easy to share; use them on the clitoris, nipples, perineum, penis or anywhere that feels good.
Air-pulse toys are designed for the clitoris and are popular with many women.
Wands and massagers give broad, deep vibration and work on any body.

Toys for internal play

Dildos come in many shapes and materials. Silicone and glass are body-safe and easy to clean; a curved tip suits G-spot play, a straight shaft suits general fullness. See our dildos guide.
Prostate massagers are curved to reach the prostate and always have a flared base for safety. Our guide to prostate massagers covers first steps.
Butt plugs can be enjoyed by anyone. Start small, use lots of lube, and only use toys with a flared base for anal play.
Remote and app toys let a partner take control, from across the room or from another city.

Toys for penises

Strokers and sleeves, from simple pocket strokers to automatic ones, work for anyone with a penis, whether solo or with a partner. Vibrating rings add sensation for both people in partner play. For trans and non-binary people, choose toys that match the body you have and the way you like to be touched, and use whatever words feel right to you. Nothing here needs to fit a label.

Strap-ons and harnesses

A harness lets someone wear a dildo for hands-free partner play. We do not stock harnesses right now, but if you plan to buy one elsewhere, choose a dildo with a flat, flared base that fits through an O-ring. Check the product photos and description for the base shape before you buy.

Toys for solo time

Not every guide has to be about couples. Many LGBTQ people use toys on their own, to explore their body, to feel at home in it, or simply to relax. Everything on this page works solo as well as with a partner. If you are just starting out, a small bullet or a finger vibrator is an easy, affordable first step, and you can add other types once you know what you enjoy.

Sharing toys safely

Choose non-porous materials (silicone, glass, steel or hard plastic) for toys you share; they wash clean.
Wash toys between partners and between anal and vaginal use, or use a fresh condom on the toy each time.
Water-based lube is safe with every toy and condom. Our lube guide explains when silicone lube is a better fit.
Our guide to cleaning sex toys covers each material.

Privacy and respect

We know that not everyone is out to family, neighbours or flatmates. Every order ships in a plain, unbranded box with nothing on the label to say what is inside, and you can pay cash on delivery. We never share your details. Our guide to quiet sex toys for shared homes helps if you live with family.

What helps

A mix of types that works for any couple or any body: finger vibrators, bullets, a dildo, a prostate massager, a stroker and a lube. The picks below are live from our shelves, from ₹799 to ₹4,399 today, and change as stock changes.