Short answer: you do not need lube, but most people find it makes sex and toy play more comfortable. Using lube is not a sign that something is wrong with your body or your arousal. Water-based lube suits every toy and condom, silicone stays slippery for much more time, and oils do not mix with latex.
Lube is still a slightly awkward purchase for many people in India, and plenty of myths keep them away from it. Here are the common ones, checked. It is part of our myths and facts series.
Where the myths come from
Lube is often presented as something you only need if there is a “problem”, so buying it can feel like admitting one. Spit and kitchen oils have long been the free alternatives, and few people are told that lubes differ. Silence does the rest.
What is actually true
The ISSM calls using a personal lubricant “perfectly normal” and notes that large national surveys show people of all genders and orientations use it. It explains that water-based lubes are safe with condoms and silicone toys, that silicone lubes can affect some silicone toys, and that oils should not be used with latex condoms. It also notes that some lubes are much more concentrated than body fluids, which can irritate delicate skin (ISSM on choosing a lubricant).
The NHS gives the same condom rule: water-based or silicone-based lube, never oil-based with latex (NHS on condoms).
Sources: ISSM: Choosing a personal lubricant; NHS: Condoms.
Six lube myths, checked
- “Needing lube means you are not aroused.” Natural wetness varies with hormones, stress, medication and the time of month. Lube simply adds comfort.
- “Spit works just as well.” It dries quickly and does not stay slippery for long.
- “All lubes are the same.” Water, silicone and oil behave very differently with toys and condoms.
- “Lube means less feeling.” Less friction usually means more comfort, which many people find more enjoyable.
- “Lube is only for older women.” People of every age and gender use it.
- “Any oil will do.” Oils weaken latex condoms and can damage soft toys.
What to do instead
- Start with a plain water-based lube; it works with every toy and condom. Our lube guide compares the types.
- Use more than you think, and reapply as it dries.
- Check the label for ingredients you prefer to avoid, such as glycerin if you are prone to thrush; see glycerin-free and our list of lube ingredients to avoid.
- Patch-test any new lube on your inner wrist first.
- Need ideas? Our guide to sex toys in India links every lube we stock.
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Frequently asked questions
Is it normal to use lube?
Yes. Surveys show it is common among people of every gender and orientation, and it says nothing bad about your body.
Is spit OK as lube?
It is better than nothing for a moment, but it dries fast. A proper lube is more comfortable.
Which lube is safe with condoms?
Water-based and silicone lubes are condom-safe. Oil-based products are not safe with latex condoms.
Can lube cause irritation?
Some people react to certain ingredients. Stop using any lube that stings or itches, and choose a short, fragrance-free ingredient list.
For adults 21 and over. This page is general information, not medical advice. Every order ships in a plain, unbranded box with free delivery and cash on delivery.